Dominique Molzan
22, from Ottawa

My Story

When I was 13, my parents got divorced. Even though I kind of knew it was coming and it wasn't a surprise, I was devastated. My parents were arguing a lot, and I had a horrible relationship with my father.

The divorce took a toll on me academically, socially, and emotionally. I began to fall behind in my schoolwork. I quickly discovered that nobody could physically make me do anything I was not interested in doing, so I lost focus and commitment to my education. I started smoking and experimenting with drugs and alcohol. I was depressed, angry and confused.

When I was 17, things changed. I discovered that I was expecting a baby, and I immediately realized that I needed to take care of myself. I started by abstaining from substance use. I quit smoking shortly after. I let go of some people in my life who did not play such a positive role. I think it's what I did not do, as opposed to what I did that made the difference.

Now I have two wonderful children, and I'm studying social services in college. I'm very busy trying to balance my education and parenting. My children are at daycare during the day while I attend school. I pick them up once my day is done and we begin our night-time routine of dinner, bathing, reading, and going to bed. I study while they're sleeping. It's not easy to balance my education and parenting, but it helps that I'm passionate about what I'm learning in school.

I get praise and recognition from people who know my story and what I face daily in being a young single parent. It feels good to be acknowledged for my hard work. But truthfully, I don't feel I need recognition for something I think I should be doing anyway. I just need to feel content with myself, my progress and my success. When I am satisfied with my own efforts, that's the greatest feeling.

Learning experience

I faced many challenges in my teen years that made me the woman I am today. I believe those challenges were laid down for me so that I can identify with the individuals I work with today, volunteering at the Ottawa Mission and the Ottawa Distress Centre. I see my past as a gift that helps me build rapport and respect with the clients I face in my field.

Get inspired

"Being a teenager is a very difficult time. You are discovering who you are in a world that is trying to teach you what to value and how to think, dress, and act – sometimes in ways you might not agree with. Good friends are golden; cherish the people who accept and respect you."

Dominique Molzan is a 2009 recipient of the Spirit of the Capital Youth Award for her academic perseverance.

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